Holidays are often a time filled with love, reconnection and gratitude but for some it is also a time that is filled with disconnect, grief, stress and loneliness. 

Setting boundaries has a tendency to bring up discomfort and can be stressful for many people. Holidays are stressful for many as it is – including those who enjoy holiday celebrations. Since the holidays typically bring us together with our families and loved ones it often is the time where are boundaries are crossed causing us to feel uncomfortable, depressed, angry and stressed. In order to protect your mental and physical health, setting boundaries can be an effective way to manage your feelings and bring you peace during this holiday season. 

What setting boundaries during this holiday season might look like:

1. Saying “NO” to family traditions due to wanting to start your own. Example: “We can’t come for dinner, but we would love to join you for desert.”

2. Not explaining your boundaries to others as you don’t need to prove that your boundaries are necessary to anyone.

3. Avoiding triggering conversations with others.

4. Saying “YES” because you want to, not out of obligation or to please others.

5. Be empowered to skip, go late, leave early or drive your own car to holiday gatherings.

6. Spending time with supportive people.

7. Act according to your own values and beliefs. 

8. Communicate your needs or wants to others.

Setting boundaries is a crucial part of maintaining healthy relationships and protecting your mental health. By being clear about your needs, limits and wants you can prevent misunderstandings and hurt feelings. You can do this!